"Who’s Keeping Score On Who Is A Whore?"

The Tale Of…
“Bloody Mary!”
50ml Vodka
200ml Tomato Juice
2 grinds of black pepper
2 dashes of Worcestershire sauce
2 dashes of Tabasco sauce
2 dashes of fresh lemon juice
1 barspoon horseradish sauce
1 celery stick
Girls are overrated! All they want is chocolates, flowers and attention, and then when you give it to them, they don’t want it anymore!
As much as I wanted to slap my friend across the face, take my independent woman stance and tell him how absolutely ridiculous that was, I couldn’t seem to deny it.
Of course he was right, sometimes it is us ladies that have the men screaming with anger and like this cocktail have them cursing our female names!
So why is that the case?
My feeling is that it’s the same sort of concept to the oh- so-common male plague of “want what you can’t have” and “want you ‘til they’ve got you” sort of thing. It is known from considerable experience that men will do anything to get you but then when they’ve got you, it usually all stops.
But maybe to throw utter spanners into the works of dating, us girls have decided we just don’t want it when you give it to us.

I’m a woman, we don’t say what we want. But we reserve the right to be pissed off if we don’t get it… that’s what makes us so fascinating!  Sliding Doors  

A common problem I hear from male friends is that the girl claims that they are “too nice”. This is obviously undeniably frustrating for the male and undoubtedly, hard to accept as the truth and not just an excuse to get rid of them.  But, is it true?
I’m sure any guys would want to bombard me with hate for saying it, but I think often, it is actually true. However, what seems to need clearing up is that it is not a reference to a personality trait. No guy is ‘too nice’ for a girl to like them, but the guy can act in a way that makes them feel crowded or trapped. And this is unfortunately where it goes all wrong. So no, no one is asking you to be a dick, and no we don’t want to be played hot and cold, or for you to play hard to get, or to flirt with other girls in front of us. None of that works. By no means am I claiming to understand all the weird and wonderful ways of dating and relationships, but the moment you start playing games with each other, is the moment you doom your relationship to end with one of you getting hurt because one of you will lose.
So maybe it is not that they “don’t want it anymore”, maybe they’re running scared, or are feeling overwhelmed. Do the romantic gestures come with 1000 texts a day and a declaration of love after 2 weeks?
A friend of mine told me a story that shows this perfectly and proves it really does happen. She had started seeing a guy that she had been seeing before starting Uni. They had called it off before she went but they now seemed really into each other and agreed they wanted to try to make it work. After just a few short weeks, before she had even returned to Uni from Christmas break, he said those three deadly words… She didn’t even know all his siblings names! What was he thinking? Needless to say, following her reaction of pretending she hadn’t heard and replying “do you want a drink?” before darting from the room, their rekindled romance died out soon after…
What I struggled to come to terms with most about this statement, is how differently it would be thought of if it were the other way around. In this case, it seems that what is being said is that girls are nothing short of ‘sluts’. We string men along making them think they have a chance, getting everything we possibly can from their caring ways and then cut them off– right? Well, let’s flip this around, if it was the girl trying to give the guy everything he wanted, there is only one word that would surface… clingy.
So here we have a classic example where a girl may be deemed a “bitch” or even “whore” by a male.  A girl on the other hand may say she was “confused” or simply “enjoying single life”. The debate of “sluts” vs. “players” could take all night, what is relevant to this tale is whether it is possible to distinguish those acting in a “slutty” way, and those who are just dating and are unfortunately not interested in this particular guy.
Having said this, maybe women are now taking it upon themselves to embrace their rights to behave like men occasionally. Put into words so perfectly by Lisa Kudrow in P.S. I Love You…

After centuries of men looking at my tits instead of my eyes, and pinching my ass instead of shaking my hand, I now have the divine right to stare at a man’s backside with vulgar, cheap appreciation if I want to.

I feel for the guys out there who are genuinely trying to woo a girl in every old-fashioned  way they can and having their efforts crushed what seems like every time. But it is a sad fact that a large majority of the walking testosterone out there remain acting like utter jerks and placing continuous negative and condemning reputations upon you all. So how can anyone blame us girls for being cautious of a species that– I tell no lies– feels it appropriate to bite my shoulder in a club to get my attention and wink as he walks past.  So until that breed is extinct, I’m afraid we will continue to tread carefully…
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