Age is Just a Number Baby
The Tale of... The OLD Pal
The lottery: people spend their lives guessing and waiting on numbers. Phone numbers: something that has become a somewhat symbol of victory when one is awarded with a number. Pin numbers, prices, passwords. Numbers seem to rule the world. Contemplating numbers on the recent Friday 13thseemed quite appropriate. I’m sure someone will have tripped or lost something, or drop something and of course, it’s not their fault… it’s just Friday 13thright?
I went into a bar the other day, it was a Tuesday night and it was about 10 o clock. There were maybe 10 people in the bar. I went to order my cocktail (obviously) where I was asked for my ID, fair enough, to then be told, “sorry only 21 and over”. I was in shock. You have to be 21? She then proceeded to tell me that this is Monday to Friday. Okay, so if I wanted to come in at the weekend I could? OH NO. Friday and Saturday is 25 and over! Hello, age discrimination much?
As you can see, numbers make our world turn round. So, with this emphasis on the importance of numbers in our world, when it comes to relationships, can we ignore the numbers? It seems this may explain why often, people find it hard to turn a blind eye when ages deviate from what is considered “normal” in relationships.
I have always wondered which is worse, a man going out with a girl significantly younger than he is. Or a woman going out with a guy significantly younger than she is.
In the end, it all comes down to assumptions.
Let’s take a look, the lingo of assumptions:
– Young girl with much older guy: Gold digger
– Older guy with much younger girl: Cradle snatcher (Insert own variation)
– Young guy with much older woman: Seeking experienced woman
– Older woman with much younger guy: Wants to feel young again
But is it that easy? Can you really just reduce people to one of these labels?
Surely it’s not always as simple as that. For example, what is considered as “much older”? 10 years? 20 years? 40 years? And on top of that, it seems there is more emphasis on age difference at certain ages. For example, a 30 year old and a 40 year old, doesn’t seem like such a major difference, but if we think about a 15 year old and a 25 year old, an innate judgement is suddenly sparked within us.
So does age really matter?
If the people in the relationship can deal with it, why can’t everyone else? It is people’s judgements that the relationship is not based on how the couple feel about each other but rather something more superficial and hence they are bombarded with cynicism. I can’t deny the sympathy I would feel for a Father who has to accept his daughter in a relationship with a man that could well be one of his school friends, however, if the relationship is based on something real, who has the right to wrong it? But then again, how can an outsider ever know what a relationship is really based on?
We’re also surrounded by examples of where age is completely denied any real significance, for example the fictional Edward Cullen claims that his feelings towards Bella are so strong that he would love her when she looks like a grandma and he still looks 17. Really? Love is a strong emotion sure, but are you really going to go to bed every night with an old woman? Perhaps this is where the judgement comes from, especially in the cases when one of the parties is considered as ‘too young’, it is common for young people to get swept up in their emotions and mistake something for ‘love’. But when it comes to the realism of being with someone who is a significant age difference from you, it all suddenly doesn’t seem so blissfully romantic.
It is known that in some cases, people choose money, comforts and other factors over being with someone because you are in love, which quite frankly is probably only their loss. Age is just a number and I’m a firm believer in an outlook of ‘you’re as young as you feel’, so really, who has the right to tell you what that is?